Chapter 180: Lack of love

After Liu Fan and Qian Hai left, everyone did not laugh at Xiao Ruirui, or that sentence, we all understand what this like is, but many girls envy Xiao Ruirui can confess to Liu Fan so close.
On the other side, Liu Fan said directly to Qian Hai's office, "Principal Qian, I want to ask you a question."
"General Liu, please." Qian Hai personally made a cup of tea for Liu Fan.
Liu Fan's expression suddenly deepened. "I was watching these children when I was eating just now. Why do I see a kind of ... inferiority in the eyes of many people?"
Qian Hai accidentally glanced at Liu Fan after placing the tea in front of him, "I did not expect that President Liu's observation was so keen."
Liu Fan laughed without saying a word. The reason why he was so sensitive to the inferiority of children was because of this look that Liu Fan had seen when he was a child, in the mirror.
It's just that Liu Fan is not sure why so many children here have this kind of emotion. Although it is said to be a poor county, the appearance of this kind of emotion is not necessarily due to poverty.
Liu Fan did not know if it was similar to these children when he was a child, but he was curious and came from the original impulse curiosity. It's like when you see a person like yourself in the crowd, you will wonder what is going on.
Qian Hai sat in her position and was somewhat sentimental, "Simply speaking, inferiority may not be very accurate. I think this should be an inferiority and autism. The biggest root of this emotion of children is lack of love.
The children here are basically left-behind children. The education of grandparents is mostly based on scolding, and it is good that they can even be scolded by grandparents. Some children do not even have grandparents. They are unified in our county's shelter. Adoption, although children who grow up in this environment will be very independent, this independence must be accompanied by all kinds of helplessness.
They have experienced the stress of life since they were young. They encounter difficulties and need to overcome them by themselves, and they need to solve problems by themselves. But after all, children are just children. They need to be accompanied, depended on, and loved. That is the most important thing for children to grow up. Things, but they don't.
So their independence is deformed, because their independence is forced, and the independence educated by parents in the city is not a concept.
This kind of independence gives children a greater feeling that no one loves themselves so I can only rely on myself, but I'm still just a child. What can I do? In the face of very difficult situations, children must be helpless. Therefore, they have no sense of security since childhood, and even feel that they have a lot of excess. The constant brewing of this kind of emotion will make children gradually become autistic and even humble. "
Liu Fan suddenly realized that he had only focused on the issue of balance of educational resources before, but ignored the children's psychological problems. No wonder many education experts have said to themselves that the issue of education is very complicated, really complicated. There are too many things to consider.
Education is not just for children to read books well. Good education educates life, not achievement. Just like the Yanjing college entrance examination champion said in a certain year, the education he received from an early age allowed him to achieve excellent grades naturally. The grades should be a by-product of high-quality education, not the whole of education.
"Is there any solution to this phenomenon now?" Liu Fan asked subconsciously.
"People from all walks of life in the country and the society have always been concerned about this issue and have done a lot of things." Qian Haidao, "including the long-term commitment of local governments to solve the education of children of migrant workers in cities, regular care activities for the public, construction of student dormitories, etc It is just that these things need time to improve gradually, and among all the measures, the most important thing is education.
A good education has a meaning to help children change their mental state, because a good education can give children the right three perspectives, broaden their horizons, and of course, more realistically, they can change their lives to a certain extent.
But the current education is difficult for these children to accept. Our townships can't get ten undergraduates a year. This is due to the lack of educational resources. On the other hand, it is because the state of some children does not make them fall in love with learning. Children ’s learning status is actually very poor, and because of their personality problems, whether we coax or coerce, there is no great effect.
To give you an example that may be a bit extreme, there was a student who skipped class before and we went to visit home. As a result, we chatted with his grandfather for an afternoon. His grandfather did not understand what we were saying, and we did not understand what he was saying. What, we have no choice but to call the child's father afterwards. If his father comes a sentence and the child is not obedient, you can just interrupt his dog's leg. Can you say that we can do this? We are teachers and not bandits. "
Qian Hai bowed her head and took a sip of tea ~ EbookFREE.me ~ but her eyes suddenly became tender, "But, we can't put any child back, although some children are really skinny and obedient, but have been in contact for a long time We just discovered that they are actually very kind. Many children are just using this rebellious way to disguise themselves. There was a child before. He cried in front of me. His naughty purpose was to get his parents back and scold. He had a meal because at least he could see his parents.
Sometimes we are really ashamed that we are not capable of bringing too many things to these children.
So everyone has been looking forward to a better way of education, and the arrival of Mr. Liu Wei at the time gave us hope. "
Fan Fan nodded to understand, but after listening to Qian Hai's comments, he felt that his model still had flaws. In fact, his intelligent education was more focused on the issue of educational resources, but this state of children , How much can your own intelligent education help?
Thinking of the children growing up in lack of love, deliberate rebellion, self-esteem and autism, Liu Fan's heart is getting tighter and tighter, as Qian Hai said, if these children cannot do anything themselves, yes An uncomfortable feeling.
Confused Liu Fan bowed his head and drank tea, was leaning to the mobile phone on the table, and suddenly patted his thigh, excited, "It's really dark under the lamp, why didn't you think of it!"
Seeing Liu Fan's sudden excitement, Qian Hai carefully asked, "What happened to President Liu?"
Liu Fan was in a good mood and laughed, "Principal Qian, can I borrow your office for a while?"
"Of course."
Liu Fan didn't know the ink either. After going out to explain to Liu Wei and Xu Jing a few words, he quickly returned to Qian Hai's office and moved out his future computer to start typing ...