Chapter 51:
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I Advise You To Like Me As Soon As Possible
- 叶斐然
- 6080 characters
- 2021-01-30 09:24:21
The door of the mediation room was opened by Shu Ning's sliding door. At this time, Fu Zheng inside the door finally saw Ning Wan outside the door.
"Ning Wan?"
Ning Wan suffocated her complex emotions, only removed her eyes and didn't go to see Fu Zheng again. Fortunately, at this time, Shu Ning's voice broke Ning Wan's embarrassment, and she turned to look at Ning Wan—
"Lawyer Ning, I, I want to have a good talk with you..."
Perhaps it was her daughter's words that finally made her wake up. Although Shu Ning struggled with her attitude, she showed her willingness to communicate for the first time.
No matter how weak the person is, the mother is just, Shu Ning can tolerate that he was violently treated by Yu Feiyuan, but he can no longer ignore the psychological trauma suffered by the child: "I...maybe I have always been running away, I am paralyzing myself, But this may really be wrong..."
Shu Ning wiped her tears: "I'm sorry for the child. Lawyer Ning is right. It's my own weakness and the reason for not divorcing. But it may be that divorce is really good for the child..."
...
Once Shu Ning's attitude softened, the rest was much easier. Fu Zheng borrowed the lower mediation room from the police, and several people sat down with each other frankly. Ning Wan did not care about Shu Ning's complaint, but was very serious. Carefully communicated with Shu Ning about the situation and details of the investigation with Fu Zheng before going to the company and school.
"Because many things go a long way, I have no way to prove anything, but with so many details, if you want to come to you, you have a free heart. In fact, you don't need to break it, you can also understand the winding inside."
Ning Wan looked at Shu Ning. She took a deep breath and finally found the courage: "I grew up living in a domestic violence family. My father and Yu Feiyuan were not as good at hitting people except for their low education level. What's the difference? I tried to dilute this memory, and I didn't want to think about it, but I knew the scars were left in my own heart. I don't want Shiyin to repeat my life like this, nor do you want you to live like this, Shu Ning, You could have deserved better..."
All along, Ning Wan has never been willing to share this experience with others, but this time, she finally decided to face this unhappy past--
"I can tell you responsibly that domestic violence will not change. My dad will admit the same mistake as Yu Feiyuan every time, but the second and third time... will continue to commit again. There are only zero and countless domestic violence. Then I did it myself..."
It is undoubtedly recalled that these pasts were a kind of self-exposed scar for Ning Wan, but she had to grind her teeth and continue to talk. Perhaps for Shu Ning, only by showing her that she is truly empathetic can she gain more from her Trust proves that there is no conflict of interest in this case, and if his self-exposed scars can allow Shu Ning to accept himself and get legal aid, then what he does is meaningful and worthwhile.
"Because my mother just tried to persuade the divorce again and again, she finally flinched and couldn't divorce her. Even today, she has not been able to divorce my dad, so I have been resentful against her over the years. , Why do she think this is the case?"
Ning Wan took a deep breath, lowered her eyes, and squeezed her fists: "Don't you live without a garbage man like my dad? I know my mom is not easy, but now I have grown up and have the ability to live independently, She can take care of her. Why doesn’t she divorce? Does she think she can save my dad like a Madonna? Or does she have a tendency to be masochistic? She feels that she is a curse or a love? At the beginning, she really sympathized with my mother. But to be honest, over time, this kind of sympathy is also mixed with disagreement and anger. I can’t understand why my mom didn’t divorce, even quarreled with my mom about this matter and said too much to her. ..."
"So frankly, you are not wrong with my complaint. In dealing with your case, I am indeed too involved in my feelings, because I hope you do not reincarnate in a bad marriage like my mother, so I took it unconsciously. Emotions, when I learned that you were not going to divorce, vented your subconscious anger and complaint to my mother." Ning Wan bit her lip and apologized to Shu Ning seriously, "I'm sorry, to you I said so intensely before."
In her confession, Shu Ning was also full of emotions: "It's me who apologizes, I'm sorry, in fact, I also know in your heart that you want to help me, but I have no courage and no way to jump out of the strange circle..."
"I know that if someone else knows about me, seeing me being beaten not only does not divorce but also helps each other, but I only feel that the poor people must have hateful things. I think I am a doctoral student, but I am willing to live in domestic violence. Here, it is deserved, self-death, and stupid. Not many people will sympathize with me. Instead, I will feel that I have lost the female face and would rather be beaten than divorce independently."
Shu Ning red eyes: "I know that I do not necessarily believe my explanation, but I may also understand why your mother is always unable to divorce."
"Other people look at us, it seems that divorce is very simple, but people who have lived in domestic violence and mental control for a long time have no way to resist, because we have been numb and have become accustomed to this kind of life habits. Well, because of the occasional change, even heavier violence will happen, so that I am afraid to mention divorce, because I am afraid that I will be beaten more severely when I mention divorce."
Ning Wan thought that as a witness of domestic violence, she should have fully understood the victim's psychology. However, at this moment, she realized that even the witness in person may not be able to truly empathize with the victim.
Shu Ning lowered his head and wiped his tears: "Because I was beaten too much, I was scolded too much, and my self-identity will also be minimized over time. I once felt that I was indeed wrong, and I really should not go out and find Work, I know it sounds stupid, why do I have to find a reason for myself when I am beaten? But if I don’t find a reason for myself, I can’t persuade myself why a good lover has become like this, because he has To love, so there is no way to accept this reality, because I want to save marriage and love, so I keep tolerating."
"I convinced myself that he loves me, and every time he hit me, he did show love and regret for me, so that I couldn’t get a divorce. I... I don’t know how to describe my feelings, I feel like I have some psychological problems. I am clearly the person I was beaten, but I still have feelings for the person who beat me, but I want to defend him, and I can’t divorce decisively...I know you may not be able to. Believe……"
"I believe." Fu Zheng, who has been quiet, opened his mouth. He glanced at Ning Wan before looking at Shu Ning again. "Stockholm syndrome, also known as the hostage complex, in short, the victim is in extreme In front of the fear and potential harm, it will be psychologically dependent on the perpetrator out of the self-protection mechanism. Just like your situation, Yu Feiyuan hits you, you can't beat him, and you have a marriage relationship to some extent. Your personal safety is in his hands, controlled by him, and he will also brainwash. Over time, you will feel that Yu Feiyuan has not beaten you one day and asks for your warmth, and you will be grateful to Dade. I am grateful to him and depend on him very much. He is a community with him. In the face of outsiders, he will not consciously defend him, assist him, and even do not want to take the initiative to leave him."
"The theory of Stockholm Syndrome believes that ‘people can be domesticated’, just as excessive stimulation and blows can make people mentally ill. Repeated PUA can also destroy a person’s spiritual freedom and even lose their will.
Fu Zheng talked here and paused: "So this is indeed a mental illness. The victims themselves sometimes do not realize it. The victims of domestic violence do not want to divorce. In fact, it is just because they are really sick. No matter what, you It’s the victim, you didn’t do anything wrong, the wrong is the person who abused your family.
"When dealing with domestic violence cases in China, it is often unconscious. In fact, the victim needs psychological intervention and treatment. Domestic violence or PUA mental control is also necessary. The victims are often not only physically injured, but also mentally ill. It’s just that people often understand depression, but they haven’t been able to understand the'patient' like you."
Fu Zheng's voice was calm, but there was no judgment on Shu Ning in his eyes. He was only very gentle and very accommodating: "Ning Wan has a friend who is a psychiatrist. If you don't mind, you can go and see. But no matter what Always remember, you are not wrong, others are not you, others have not suffered what you suffered, so no one is qualified to judge you, and no one is qualified to blame you."
"You persuaded yourself to forgive Yu Feiyuan's domestic violence in order to find a reason for yourself to survive, but we can't forgive domestic violence, because this way, thousands of women like you can survive."
If Shu Ning was originally only in tears because of the reaction of Shi Yin, and now listening to Fu Zheng, her grievances, anxiety and confusion finally broke, she could hardly control her emotions, but she burst into tears and cried. Choked.
Since Yu Feiyuan's domestic violence, Shu Ning's self-evaluation and cognition have been reduced to a minimum, and after repeated violence, she has almost cut off the previous contacts, and dare not ask others for help, only secretly A help post was posted online, but when netizens learned that she hadn't divorced, the comfort of those words became sarcasm and abusive--
"It's been beaten like this and you are not divorced, no wonder you are going to be beaten!"
"The reason why the scum man has a market is because of a like you..."
"I'm going. A high school student knows that he can't marry a domestic violence guy. How did this po master read the doctor? Is there paste in my mind?"
"Okay, okay, don't persuade everyone. When the next time I see this po master, it's time to be killed by a scum boy husband on social news. Everyone can give her a good word and go along."
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And this is almost the first time someone said to her that she was not wrong, she was just ill, she was not stupid, nor cheap, suffering from all this was not deserved, but was hurt, others were not qualified to judge her, it was never wrong She, she deserves to be redeemed, and she can still be redeemed.
With tears in her eyes, she bowed deeply to Fu Zheng: "Lawyer Fu, thank you, thank you very much."
Shu Ning sobbed: "Lawyer Ning, thank you too! It's my pleasure to meet you all in my life!"
Many times, people only see the physical trauma of the victims in domestic violence cases, but ignore the inner scars. Shu Ning never thought that he could meet such two lawyers-Ning Wan did not give up on her, even if he would revenge. After complaining to her in general, she also insisted on reaching out to herself; Fu Zheng did her best to help her, giving her understanding and tolerance that no one had ever given, and let Shu Ning come out of self-blame, Be able to forgive and accept yourself.
After an in-depth discussion, Shu Ning finally finally had a backbone in her heart, and her thinking became clear. She finally made up her mind to divorce, but...
"I blame me for failing to listen to Attorney Ning before, missing the evidence collection, and not knowing how to prove his domestic violence when prosecuting."
Because the parties do not pay much attention to the protection of evidence, many times domestic violence cases will face such results, but it is not impossible to do. Ning Wan logic clearly explained: "If there is no evidence today, it is still possible to divorce. As time goes on a little longer, I suggest you take your child to separate him..."
It's just that the words didn't finish, and the original poem that snuggled up to Shu Ning on the side opened the mouth: "Mom, I have evidence."
In the eyes of the three people, Master Shiyin jumped out of Shu Ning's arms, she blinked: "The last time my father hit my mother, I secretly recorded like..." She paused and continued. "It's my mother's old mobile phone. I took photos and video, but then my dad hit someone again and threw things, smashing this old mobile phone. I can't turn on the phone, so I can't show it to my police uncle... …"
Ning Wan's eyes light up: "You are such a great kid!" After she finished, she turned to Shu Ning. "We can find someone to repair the phone and restore it. The video in the high probability can still be exported. Yes, there will be direct video data, and Yu Feiyuan can’t deny the fact of hitting you.
Shu Ning hugged the poems and nodded.
"In addition, you are temporarily inactive, don't mention the divorce first, to prevent Yu Feiyuan from angering you again, and secondly, we can try to get another certificate."
As soon as the case was handled, Ning Wan picked up her emotions and gave serious and professional advice: "Even if we have video evidence, because as an orphan, it can only prove that Yu Feiyuan beat you once, if he was in front of the judge In a show of tears and remorse, it is likely that the judge will decide that your relationship has not been broken, and the first prosecution will not be sentenced, so it is best to have other auxiliary evidence. This time since he hit you again, there is a high probability that he will still Will admit mistakes afterwards, then can you guide him to write a written confession and confession to you? The validity of the documentary evidence is very high."
Shu Ning nodded: "I will also go to buy a camera, install it in the room and living room first, in case he will still hit me in the past few days, it is just for evidence."
"Remember to call the police." Fu Zhengguan said, "Protect yourself first and get the evidence second."
Regarding the suggestions of Ning Wan and Fu Zheng, Shu Ning wrote down one by one, and several people agreed to restore the mobile phone first, and then seek other supplementary evidence step by step. During this period, Shu Ning also submitted his resume to try to find a legitimate Work steadily to fight for custody of children.
In the case of divorce, once the parties have made up their minds, the advancement is very efficient. Ning Wan sorted out all the details clearly, and gave Shu Ning a list of materials for her to add, preparing for Yu Feiyuan's prosecution of divorce. It comes to an end.
Before saying goodbye, Shu Ning thanked the two people again and again and apologized to Ning Wan again: "Sorry Ning, I will withdraw the complaint of the law firm as soon as possible. You are really a very good lawyer."
Ning Wan originally had no hope for Shu Ning's case. However, she didn't expect the case. Her complaint was finally resolved smoothly.
After Shu Ning took her daughter away, Ning Wan and Fu Zheng also went from the police station to the community office.
It was impossible for Ning Wan to feel unhappy when things could be solved in such a perfect way. However, besides being happy, she still had other emotions, sour and swollen, somewhat complicated, somewhat dazed, and did not even know how to express it. Fu Zheng didn't even open his mouth, not even the sentence invitation.
In the end, Ning Wan couldn't hold her back, she kicked the stone in front of her eyes—
"Fu Zheng."
Fu Zheng stopped and looked at her, looking gentle and ordinary: "Huh?"
Ning Wan stared at him for a moment, then looked away, and found a small stone kick on the road like a provocation, "Are you stupid?"
"what?"
I'm so sorry to ask!
Ning Wan took a deep breath and tried to calm her tone: "You are a trainee lawyer, you can't handle the case alone. You don't remember? Who asked you to come to see the client behind my back?"
Fu Zheng smiled and did not speak, but the more he had this attitude, the more the emotion in Ning Wan’s heart turned up. She glared at Fu Zheng again, struggling to put out a stiff posture: "The situation of Shu Ning’s case is complicated. It’s not that I don’t know. Besides, she has complained to me. Do you know that if you touch her child in private and cause her rebellion, it is likely that you will also bring you together to complain? I am a professional who has been working for several years. Attorney, the complaint will not affect me so much, but you are still a lawyer during the internship period. Once you are complained, if you handle it seriously, you may be dismissed directly!"
Seeing that Fu Zheng has not yet realized the potential risk of this matter, Ning Wan is even more angry: "You had no work experience before the age of entry, and if you ate and complained of your complaint, you will be dismissed. Your career will be ruined! You don’t want to encounter the muddy water like Shu Ning."
"I want to try it."
"What to try? This is not when you trainee lawyer should rush ahead. What do you want to try? Is it possible to try it yourself? People have to go step by step. I know you are interested in this case, but..."
"I want to try if I can let her cancel the complaint against you."
Fu Zheng's voice is gentle and peaceful, with no complicated decoration or subtle ambiguity, but it is this gentle straightforwardness that makes Ning Wan completely helpless.
In fact, she knew that Fu Zheng self-proclaimed to find other breakthroughs for herself, but because of this, Ning Wan felt that she could not forgive herself even more.
"Are you an idiot?" She tried to suppress the sourness in her nasal cavity, and found another stone to kick. "At this time, it's good to be alone. What kind of client to find, I am a senior lawyer who has worked for several years." Of course, there is of course a solution to your complaint. Don’t do such silly things in the future. The first step in becoming a lawyer is to learn to protect yourself."
"It's not a stupid thing." Fu Zheng's tone was very determined. "You are a very good attorney. You shouldn't be delayed by this kind of thing. Enter the big Par team and stand in a higher position. This is you. Deserved."
Ning Wan’s eyes really couldn’t help turning red. Although he had always mentioned to Fu Zhenger that he was a senior lawyer and gave him various instructions, Ning Wan knew that he was heavier:
Although I work more than you This year, but what I can teach you is just this. I have never done a complicated business case at all, and I have no big case resume that I can handle. I am not a good attorney at all."
"You just haven't seen the world before, and you feel that you have learned a lot from me, but you have gone a lot better than me. I will try to enter a good team in the future, but remember no matter what, don't give up on anyone. Take your heart and lungs, and think about yourself in advance."
However, his emotions were unstable, but Fu Zheng was still very peaceful. He glanced at Ning Wan: "Did you think about yourself when you handled the case? According to the regulations in the office, if you have a complaint that cannot be eliminated this year, it will affect You apply to enter any big par team."
Fortunately, Shu Ning's case was resolved smoothly, but if he had a business trip, he would have been the only one to be complained about. Fu Zheng's active intervention would inevitably be affected.
Dao is one foot tall and one devil is tall. For people and things that are not polite to him, Ning Wan will always fight back. This is not because she is belligerent, but because if she doesn’t fight back for herself, there is no one. Will be ahead of her.
The workplace has always been cruel. In Zhengyuan Law Firm, Ning Wan did not have a team, did not teach lawyers, and therefore did not have a refuge. In the past, she suffered grievances, was suddenly robbed of the source of the case, or forcibly assigned scrap work. Being able to fight on your own, but just tolerate it, and this is almost the first time someone has taken the initiative to stand up and protect her.
Ning Wan never thought that one day he would be protected by an intern lawyer with qualifications and backgrounds, but at the same time he was moved and sour at the same time, but also mixed with guilt and sadness.
It should be to protect Fu Zheng himself, rather than let him take risks for himself.
"Don’t do that in the future, I can’t do it. I graduated with a second-rate undergraduate, and I don’t have any major case experience. Even if there is no complaint record, Big Par may not choose me, but you are not the same. Your education is completely fine and your learning ability is strong. Although it is older, because it is a man, marriage and childbirth have a small impact on the workplace, and fight hard. This time, the big par may really choose you."
Ning Wan looked at Fu Zheng wholeheartedly: "Also, in the workplace, don't really be so arrogant, and don't always worry about thinking too well. What if I am not really a person? After all, the new Big Par team only accepts three people. You are also my potential competitor. Knowing people and knowing people is unintentional. Maybe I will treat you well and hurt you behind your back?"
As a result, Ning Wan was so tempted to seize the opportunity to give Fu Zheng the popular science of the workplace. Fu Zheng’s silly and white sweetness not only did not get his deep meaning, but even interrupted himself without thinking, he glanced at Ning Wan, his voice Be certain--
"you will not."
Ning Wan didn't mention it in a single breath. At ordinary times, seeing Fu Zheng is quite inconsistent. How come you are so stubborn in the interpersonal relationship in the workplace?
Only when she just wanted to continue to explain, she listened to Fu Zheng continued-
"I don't want you to have a complaint record." His beautiful eyes stared at Ning Wan, "because we have to join Dapar's team together."
"You and I will continue to work together in the future."
At this moment, Ning Wan had a feeling of being shot in the middle of a person's heart, but what followed was not pain, but panic and nervousness like a burst, as if even breathing was taken away at once, just waiting for calm When I came over, I realized that my heart was beating right in the chest, but the frequency of the beating was so fast that she could not ignore it.
Ming Ming Fu Zheng is not saying anything strange, he just wants to continue working with himself...
However, he stared at his eyes and said this, but it made Ning Wan feel unable to look directly. For a moment, it seemed that the whole person had become sloppy. Ning Wan didn't even know how to lay his hands and feet.
In the past, no matter how difficult or complicated a case was in the community, she had not been timid, but now Fu Zheng gave her the urge to escape for the first time. Why are you, me, even having to pause for a while and just say we can’t?
Fu Zheng, the initiator, did not realize that he was wrong. He still looked at Ning Wan and continued: "I will not do this to other colleagues, this is true for you."
Ning Wan's entire face was red, and she felt that her body temperature was also uncontrollably rising. If someone like Fu Zheng didn't know that he had such a face, should he avoid suspicions and don't say such things to the opposite sex? It sounds easy to misunderstand!
"You a trainee lawyer..."
"I know that as an intern lawyer, it is rash and improper to intervene in this case, but I did not do this from the standpoint of my intern lawyer, nor from any professional identity." Fu Zheng smiled. Next, "I just take Fu Zheng's position."
After he finished speaking, he looked at Ning Wan again and suggested, "Can you stop training me?"
...... I have said so, how can I still train, not to mention training now, Fu Zheng's gentle and gentle appearance, Ning Wan is embarrassed to even say a heavy sentence to him...
Silly white sweet creatures really arouse people's desire to protect...
It's just that Ning Wan really never thought that she would be protected by a silly white sweet one day.
Although there is no protection from teaching lawyers, it seems that it feels good to have Fu Zheng's protection.
But Ning Wan's heart has other emotions besides moving gratefulness and nervousness: "Thank you for this matter, but Fu Zheng, I am not as good as you think..."
Perhaps as a newcomer, Fu Zheng also has some fledgling plots. Because of his occasional teaching, he took filters when he looked at himself, but Ning Wan was ashamed and not worthy of Fu Zheng’s praise.
"You are very good, you are very responsible to each of your customers. In addition to the cold laws, you are also striving to pursue relief from the law of the parties in the case. You want to use the law to protect others, and you want to use the law to change others. Life is good."
Fu Zheng's tone was low and gentle, but he was very determined: "In the face of Shu Ning, you are willing to keep trying, doing investigations that may seem meaningless to many other lawyers, visiting her company, visiting her school, willing To do the "useless work" in the eyes of others, you are a very good and warm lawyer." Fu Zheng's voice softened. "In this case, you are helping Shu Ning and Shi Yin out of the quagmire. "
"I'm not so good." Ning Wan pursed her lips and struggled for a moment, but decided to confess, "In fact, in some ways, it shouldn't be Shu Ning and Shi Yin who thanked me for meeting this case, and perhaps it should be me. Thank you for choosing me for this case."
Ning Wan kicked a small pebble again. Even now, she no longer conceals her family situation: "Because I have experienced the shadow of domestic violence since I was a child, I hate domestic violence deeply. I can understand the emotion of poetry, Because I have felt it all the time, I have been persuading my mother to divorce, but I was disappointed again and again, so that in the end, I not only hated my father, but also resented my mother, I can not forgive my father, but deep down, it seems that I can’t Forgive my mother, because I always feel that if she divorced and left this man earlier, she and I could have a better life."
These inner emotions, Ning Wan has never said to others, and never thought that one day she would even speak out, but Fu Zheng seems to have such power, making her feel safe and reliable, as if to bring her own inner darkness The analysis of his emotions will not be scorned to him. He is like a sea, calm and deep and tolerant enough.
"Before this case, I always thought I was perfect in my dad's domestic violence. I did all the things a daughter should do. I encouraged my mother to get evidence, divorce, and work hard. No Let her be distracted, economically independent, and income can support her divorce, so she has not divorced so far, it is entirely her own fault and choice."
Ning Wan said here that her eyes were gradually red: "But it is only today that I realized how selfish and stupid I was in the past. I never really felt my mother's feelings. I started from my own standpoint, from She didn’t think about her.
Ning Wan has never thought about the victim's psychological problems, never thought that her own mother may have formed Stockholm syndrome under the perennial violence and repeated suppression. Domestic violence hurts not only the body but also the soul. After years of injury, her mother may have been unable to free herself from this life. She lost her spiritual freedom and her ability to resist, and she became numb and resigned.
But even so, Fu Zheng's black eyes are dark and deep: "What's wrong with you? You're just an imperfect victim."
"No, I'm wrong." Ning Wan took a deep breath and looked at the ground. "I'm too selfish. Like all the keyboard men above, I blame my mother, but I never thought I would take the initiative. Help her get out of this life."
"Six-year-old Shiyin thought about constantly calling the police and secretly recording video evidence, trying to help her mother, but me? I just moved my lips and talked to those mothers about the rules of the road to persuade my mother, But in fact nothing has really been done for her."
My mother's repressive pain and suffering in those years, now rather think of it, but it is full of regret and self-blame at the same time. Is he really doing everything for his mother? absolutely not!
She is not a qualified daughter at all!
"My mother chose silence in the long-term violence and was afraid of change, so she didn't dare to divorce, but I gave up her so easily..."
Speaking of which, Ning Wan can't control her emotions anymore. She blames her remorse and pain like poisonous vines. She knows that she shouldn't cry. This is too disturbing. Fu Zheng didn't even talk to her. How long I knew myself, but at this moment, Ning Wan could not restrain it at all. The words of the six-year-old Shiyin hammered her always good self-feeling. If you really want to protect a person, just talking is not enough.
"If it weren't for Shi Yin's fierce attitude, maybe Shu Ning wouldn't wake up. I was thinking, if I could be like Shi Yin at first, would my mother divorce my dad from the sea of bitterness."
Ning Wan lowered her head, trying to cover up her tears that kept flowing down: "I obviously... obviously can take my mother to Rongshi earlier, so that even if she is not divorced, she can stay away from my dad. The psychiatrist intervened and treated her well, and if she separated for another two years, she might have been cut off completely with my dad... But I didn’t expect anything, I didn’t do anything for my mother, I just thought about myself I didn’t see Wei Jing escaped from my dad. I just thought my mom was obsessed. I didn’t... I wasn’t a good person at all. I didn’t even protect my mom..."
"You are not wrong." Fu Zheng's voice interrupted Ning Wan. Even if it was such a simple sentence, it seemed to have the power to calm people's hearts.
Ning Wan felt the warm touch on her face, and Fu Zheng handed a piece of paper over her face.
"Historically, the culture of our country always likes to find the cause on the victim. If a woman encounters domestic violence, someone will immediately find out what happened. Is she at fault? Was she provocative? Did a girl break up after being separated? Her boyfriend chased her and started to pull away cocoons again. Did she spend a lot of money on her man to break up before being retaliated?"
If Fu Zheng accused Ning Wan at the moment, perhaps Ning Wan would be better off, but he did not, he was gentle, tolerant, and did not arbitrarily comment, but Ning Wan felt like crying more.
"In short, it seems that the victim must be perfect and flawless to be worthy of sympathy. But it is not." Fu Zheng bent down slightly and his eyes were flush with Ning Wan. "The victim is the victim no matter what. You don’t have to blame yourself for being imperfect. You are the victim, just like your mother, so don’t blame yourself for not doing well enough to protect others, because you should also be protected.
Ning Wan’s tears still couldn’t help but fall down. Fu Zheng looked helpless. He gently patted Ning Wan’s head and stared at her tearful eyes:
It’s really not your fault, the fault is People who perpetrate violence, like all victims, you should not blame yourself."
Ning Wan held back her choked throat, and she looked away awkwardly.
For a long time, Ning Wan has always been a strong and unyielding sunshine, but at this moment, she feels that she no longer wants to be strong, Fu Zheng is too gentle, so gentle that Ning Wan really feels that if she can always have His protection is just fine, gentle enough to want to rely on, gentle enough to Ning Wan really forgive herself, she is also a victim, even if it is not good enough, there is nothing wrong with it.
"In addition, I have always wanted to apologize for my previous view of your academic qualifications." Fu Zheng's tone was very soft, "I'm sorry, you made me change my perspective, academic qualifications do not represent everything, and academic qualifications are just a stepping stone and a starting point. Only, you are great. You grew up in such an environment and can become such a powerful lawyer. It’s really amazing. If I were you, I might not be able to have your achievements."
"So don't cry, people have to laugh to make it look better." Fu Zheng smiled and followed the path of temptation, "Okay, what do you want to eat? Do you want matcha ice cream? Celebrate your reconciliation with the parties, the complaint is about to be withdrawn ? Such a good thing, should be happy."
Ning Wan was no longer hypocritical, she wiped her tears and said simply: "Yes!"
The past is past and the future has not yet arrived. No matter what, time cannot go back in time, but now that you have realized your own shortcomings, you can still remedy this moment.
Sometimes life may be a wonderful reincarnation. Ning Wan helped Shu Ning, but in a sense, Shu Ning's case also awoke Ning Wan. Through this, Shu Ning will eventually grow up. Isn't Ning Wan acting as a lawyer in this case?
Perhaps many times, the lawyer and the client are not blindly unidirectional, but they can also warm and grow with each other.
After crying and venting her emotions, Ning Wan already knew how to do it. Victims of domestic violence may never only need verbal advice, but also need someone to reach out to them and drag them out of the muddy life.
She is going to do things she could not do in the past, to protect her mother, and to change her life.
But at this moment, she will first follow Fu Zheng to eat her matcha ice cream.