Chapter 3522: Constantly recognize

Luffy smiled and said, "Yes, if it is a couple whose careers are at a trough at the same time, it is still possible that they will work together to tide over the difficulties. However, if the development of the couple’s career is not synchronized, one Keep moving forward, and stand still, and even keep backing, then it will be a matter of time for such a couple to break up."
Mo Yue smiled, "Well, so, marriage is the most complicated relationship formed between man and woman. Once the husband and wife receive a red book, they must plan to help each other in the same boat and have children together. There are a lot of troublesome things to support the family and take care of the elderly. And in the process, the couple will have to go through the seven-year itch, ten-year death, and the middle-aged crisis, waiting for the children to grow up. , The couple stayed at home to be empty nesters. During this long process, the appearance and personality of the couple will change tremendously, and the relationship between the couple has changed from the original kindness, love, love, me and me to two irritable personalities. People who are like two gunpowder kegs that explode at one point."
Luffy smiled, "Your analogy is very vivid. I suddenly remembered my grumpy mother. She is always fine at home, looking for trouble. If she catches something, she can also say something. For a long time. Fortunately, my father has a good temper and seldom cares about her, otherwise the family would not quarrel every day. My mother is really that kind of personality, very hot, and it will explode. Oh, actually, my father and I usually don’t even Twist, she will also blow up, we are all used to it."
Mo Yue smiled and said, "Yes. So, to maintain the harmony of a family, family members must make sacrifices. For example, your father must be patient, to endure your mother's picky and violent temper. So. Saying that a husband and wife spent a long life together is actually a process of constantly recognizing each other."
Moyue looked at Luffy’s puzzled gaze and smiled, "Isn’t that the case? For men, the girl he married is obviously a sweet and lovely girl, but after a few years, the girl turned into a full face. Wrinkled nagging aunt, at this time, facing such a fierce and moody middle-aged woman, will she have the idea of ​​returning the goods? Similarly, for a woman, her marriage is obviously a handsome and handsome talent, but A few years later, the talented man became an idle mediocrity, and at this time the talented man was experiencing a middle-aged crisis, and might even lose his job. He stayed at home every day, with a big belly, poured yellow soup every day, and lived passively. Because of a bad mood, I don’t know how to be talented, and maybe I often beat my child and wife to vent my anger. At this time, when a woman faces such a violent drunkard and trash man, will she scold herself for being blind and marrying the wrong person?"
Lu Fei smiled, "I think it will be. With your analysis like this, I really want to laugh. Indeed, time will change a person, regardless of whether they are men or women, after a period of time, they will lose their original appearance. Maybe it will eventually become a fact that they can't believe that the person in the mirror is themselves even if they take a self-portrait."
Mo Yue smiled and said, "Yes. So, when the couple loses their original identity completely after a long period of baptism, they need to make a second emotional confirmation. Men need to confirm the face full of flesh in front of them. The unlovable and mean-spoken middle-aged aunt is the wife of her own love. Women also need to confirm that this person will do nothing in middle age. Apart from drinking and making troubles, the guy who does nothing is her dearest husband."
Luffy laughed, "So what is the result of this second determination?"
Mo Yue laughed, "If the result of this second confirmation is benign, that is to say, the poorly mixed couple is willing to actively change themselves and try to keep up with the pace of their spouse. Of course, this confirmation appears. A benign result is naturally good. However, if the result of this confirmation is vicious, for example, if the good party refuses to accept the bad party, and the bad party does not accept the request for positive confession or improvement, then the two of them will finally The result can only be a divorce."
Luffy smiled bitterly, "This kind of thing is really troublesome. Isn't it just two people living together? What do you need to do for a second confirmation. It sounds like they feel big."
Mo Yue smiled, "Actually, there will be countless changes in the long life of human beings. Therefore, if a couple wants to grow old together, it is not just a second confirmation, because every change needs to be confirmed again. So, if the kind of ill-fated couple wants to grow old together, they have to go through a lot of confirmation processes."
Luffy smiled and said, "Mom, just this second confirmation sounds like you already feel scalp numb. According to what you said, some couples have to confirm many times if they want to spend their lives together. Is it frightening?"
Moyue smiled, "There is no way, because of fate, no one can predict what will happen next in their life. For example, those American presidents who are assassinated and killed, if they know in advance that someone will arrange for sniping. Kill yourself with a pistol, so will they still choose to go out that day? That's not the designation, right?"
Luffy nodded, "That's it. If you know in advance that someone will assassinate yourself, only fools will go out."
Moyue smiled, "So, human life is an unknown journey. No one can predict what will happen next. Therefore, the combination of a husband and wife is actually a combination of men and women who have two different life experiences. Putting them together abruptly, let them live together under the same roof. Two people with different life experiences, and their lives are still continuing, according to the changes of the times, constantly changing, this kind of thing, just Thinking about it, it feels a bit crappy. Therefore, many people say that marriage is a kind of adventure, regardless of men and women, completely handing over their continuing life to the hands of another opposite sex, and this opposite continues to continue in their own hands. In the changing life journey. During the long life journey, the husband and wife have to face many things together. In the process, they gradually become aging. Therefore, marriage is a kind of marriage that requires the husband and wife to constantly confirm and recognize each other Remember, you must recognize the other party, no matter what the other party becomes, you must choose to recognize the other party, and only this kind of continuous recognition can make the marriage continue, and finally realize the two people grow old together and love as ever. It's a process of mutual running-in."
Luffy frowned, "God, if marriage is such a terrible thing, then I would rather not marry."
Mo Yue smiled and said, "Don't get married? Do you think the world can let you go? If you refuse to marry alive and alive, what will your family and friends think of you? Would they treat you as a monster? Sick? Otherwise, why do everyone get married, but you are that strange thing and choose not to marry?"
Lu Fei smiled, "People should do meaningful things while they are alive. I believe you already understand things like marriage. It's a time-consuming and unthankful process, and it may take a lot of effort. The strength to maintain a complete family, and finally fell apart. You said such an unknown thing, why are you here?"