Chapter 1147: (·??·?)??? I promise that there will be no chaos...

Wen/wenying
01
Yuxuan was sitting at her desk, and suddenly she burst into tears and she couldn't cry.
10 minutes ago, Yu Xuan, who was busy working in front of the computer, was shocked by the loud noise. When she looked up, her beautiful and exquisite female boss Gu Jing said to her in an indifferent voice:
"Come to my office!"
I was frightened by the attitude of the boss and drew nervously. I quickly reviewed my recent work and found that there was nothing wrong with it. Then I relaxed a little and followed Gu Jing to her office.
"How do you like your recent work performance?"
"It should be fine." Yu Xuan replied hesitantly.
She didn’t quite understand what Gu Jing meant. Based on her understanding of the boss, she seemed to have never really managed her work. In fact, the projects that Yuxuan was responsible for had always been smooth, and the client was very satisfied. Colleagues cooperate well, everything is under Yuxuan's control.
"But I am very dissatisfied. Go back and think for yourself. If you continue to do this, you can leave your job in a month."
Yuxuan looked at Gu Jing in shock, but she couldn't speak for a while.
She watched Gu Jing waved her hand irritably, and said, "Go out!"
Yu Xuan dragged her stiff feet out of Gu Jing's office and sat at her desk, feeling a moment of loss.
A few minutes later, I felt my tears flow down my face, and watched them vaguely falling on the desk like beads, splashing small water splashes.
02
Gu Jing joined the company a year ago, and immediately became Yuxuan's immediate boss and the company's project director.
It is said that she and the general manager were very good friends before joining the company. The general manager even gave a welcome speech in the company's auditorium for Gu Jing's joining.
Almost on the first day of Gu Jing's employment, everyone in the entire project department knew that this new boss was a favorite in the eyes of the general manager.
These people in the project department followed Gu Jing's speeches with care. Gu Jing told a cold joke that was not funny. The whole office laughed. Gu Jing said which restaurant is good, and everyone said when to go to that restaurant to invite Director Gu for dinner.
Yuxuan knows that she is a very insensitive person to interpersonal relationships, and has never been very concerned about eating, drinking, and having fun. When the boss chats with colleagues, she feels that she can't get any words in, so she sits silently in front of the computer. jobs.
She didn't even know to smile when others laughed, because she thought it seemed silly to laugh without knowing why.
So slowly, she found that colleagues in the office began to alienate her intentionally or unintentionally. Even when they went out for food at noon, colleagues with better relationships began to find various reasons not to join her.
Every morning when she arrives at the office, Yuxuan wants to say hello to everyone as she always did. When she sees Gu Jing that she clearly sees her, but deliberately turns her head to pretend not to see her, that greeting can't be said.
Gradually, the dull Yuxuan finally felt uncomfortable working in this environment, but did not think deeply about why it became what it is today.
She works harder and harder, and she can often see her working hard overtime in the office at 10 o'clock in the evening.
It's not because she likes to work overtime or inefficiency, but the colleagues who worked with her before suddenly said that there was no time.
She can only be responsible for all the projects on hand, and has to devote a lot of time to each project to meet the increasing requirements of customers.
There were more and more busy jobs, and there was no one to help, so when she was exhausted, she started to make some small mistakes frequently.
Every time a mistake occurs, it is her disaster day.
She knew that Gu Jing would not let her go. She would gather people from all the houses and tell everyone how sloppy Yu Xuan had done.
After realizing that every mistake will have serious consequences, Yuxuan's work is becoming more and more detailed, at the cost of her getting off work later and later.
In recent months, it has been a long time since there have been any mistakes that make people grasp the handle.
She thought that Gu Jing should be satisfied, but she waited for a warning from Gu Jing to let her quit her job, but she still didn't understand why.
A month later, she had to submit a resignation report and left the company alone!
This time resignation became a pain that cannot be mentioned in her heart.
03
After leaving the job, Yu Xuan was depressed and remembered that I was working in a corporate coaching company. She called me and briefly talked about her situation. I asked her to meet in the cafe downstairs of the company.
I haven't seen her for a long time. I only saw a pale, skinny girl who "floats" from outside the door. I stared at her face for a long time before I finally determined that she was the one I was. I have known Yuxuan for many years.
This woman who has always been in trouble seems to have become a little cautious.
While she was telling me, she suddenly started to cry again. She said that she actually knew that Gu Jing did not like her. After realizing this, she made a lot of efforts to make up for it. She, who has always been incommensurate with the world, actually spent some time. More than 10,000 yuan went to the gold store to buy a golden Buddha pendant, and wanted to give it to Gu Jing to please her.
But after all, she chose not to send it out between giving it or not. She realized that the relationship between the superior and the subordinate that she spent money to buy was not what she wanted. She would rather leave than go to the talent market to find a job again instead of tarnishing it. To understand my own view of the world.
If the world has an ugly side, then she chooses to look only at the beautiful side.
04
I looked at her with grief!
But I know that what she needs is not for me to comfort her, nor for complaining to me about how bad her boss is. What she wanted to know was where she was wrong.
This stubborn girl would never allow herself to make two mistakes in the same place.
I ask her:
1. Did you try to get to know your boss in the past?
2. Have you analyzed the characteristics of your boss?
3. Have you asked your colleagues for their views on you?
4. Have you tried to find common ground between you and your boss?
She was silent for a long time, saying that the moment she saw Gu Jing, looking at the delicate makeup on her face, she knew that she was not from the same world as herself.
So, consciously or unconsciously, he excluded Gu Jing from his work and life circle.
In the first two months, her colleagues had not alienated her. She often laughed with colleagues, but stopped talking when Gu Jing arrived in the office.
She thought it was a respect for her boss, that is, she didn't know that it was hurt in a sense.
Gu Jing is a bit narcissistic. At the beginning, she often called Yu Xuan to the office, but she was not talking about work, but her past achievements. If other colleagues, whether sincere or not, they would give Gu Jing a thumbs up. In this way, the relationship between superiors and superiors is established.
But Yuxuan didn't. Her disapproval was directly on her face, she just told Gu Jing directly: "I know you are bragging again!"
She thinks that as long as she has a strong working ability, it is enough to do her job best. Knowing her boss is not within her own consideration and it is not worth wasting time. Not to mention analyzing the personality characteristics of the boss.
As for soliciting feedback from colleagues, perhaps she was afraid of hearing something embarrassing from them. She never asked them what they thought of herself, or any suggestions for getting along with Gu Jing.
Yuxuan concluded by saying that I have never done the four points you mentioned.
05
Yuxuan’s problem is a common problem for many people in the workplace, that is, the lack of the ability to communicate upward, or the ability to
manage
the boss.
There are many kinds of bosses in the workplace. There are good bosses who can really support and train employees, and there are also some "sick" bosses. They are either overly narcissistic, or manic and depressed, or passively aggressive...
We really can't expect that we will meet a real good boss every time.
Even good bosses can't expect them to be good bosses all the time. They will still be "ill".
Always look at the boss
The reason why we can get along with our colleagues, but don't know how to communicate with the boss, is actually because we put the boss in a high position psychologically and put them on the altar.
I have to admit that upward communication is indeed not an easy task for people born in the 70s and 80s.
Most of them grew up under the "oppression" of their teachers. They would stand in the corner and copy books if they were disobedient. Otherwise, they would report criticism in full view. As time passed, they would treat the teacher with respect. Mentality.
When this generation grows up and enters the workplace, they actually have the same awe of their bosses as they do for their teachers. If they can avoid it, they will never take the initiative to communicate with their boss.
Occasionally the boss will feel frightened when looking for a conversation, worrying about whether there is something wrong in the work, people will be grasped, or they will be given a small report..., there is rarely a positive and optimistic feeling. idea.
Here we are not going to talk about the upward communication of the post-90s and 00s. The growth experience in different times makes them not have too much awe of the teachers, which makes their upward communication ability much better than that of the post-70s and 80s.
I have to say that this attitude of avoiding the boss will only make the relationship between the two parties farther and farther.
In fact, the conclusion is to change your attitude towards
authority
. Don’t treat your boss with a respectful attitude just because his position is higher than ours. As long as he respects him, treat him like a friend. .
The boss is also a human, and he will also have his own advantages and disadvantages. Don't deify him because of his position.
It is important to understand the boss and his demands. Knowing his personality, work experience, family members, personal preferences, etc. can help you treat him as an equal person like you.
We usually talk at ease with friends. We can say whatever we want. We are very restrained when we talk to the boss. We don't know where to put our hands, how to put our feet, and we stammer when we talk. It's because you put him in a high position, just like a totem, you can't have an equal conversation with him.
Manage the goals and expectations of both parties
In the company, the boss will chat with employees on a regular basis to understand their thoughts, mainly to understand their expectations and work goals.
But in fact, this job is not unilateral. As an employee, you must also understand the boss’s expectations and goals for you so that you can make some timely feedback and adjustments when deviations occur.
In the communication, the boss's expectations of the employees will have an impact on the employees, and in turn, the employees' expectations will also have an impact on the boss.
If there is a big gap between the expectations of both parties, both parties need to make efforts to adjust their goals or adjust their jobs.
The management of the goals and expectations of both parties is very important, because it determines whether you will be happy at work in the future. Employees must clearly state what they want to do. The boss arranges the work according to the employees' hobbies and career development path.
For example, if someone is good at getting along with people, the boss will arrange more social work, such as interviews with customers, follow up on customer progress, etc.; someone likes to research technology, will arrange to do some tool analysis, form design, etc. Aspects of work.
If you don't tell your boss your expectations, he may think that you are suitable for a certain job you don't really like to do, or he will consider your "prospect" to arrange for you a job he thinks has development prospects.
As a result, your life is not easy. Doing things you don't like to do every day, you may only have to leave in the end.
The basis of establishing a relationship is mutual trust and mutual respect.
As an employee, don't passively wait for arrangements, especially arrangements that you know you don’t like.
We can communicate straight up and let the boss understand what we think. We believe that the boss will not embarrass you because of your suggestions, and he will respect you more because of your struggle.
Time to manage the boss
The more things your boss has, the less time you can allocate. As an employee, you must take the initiative to ask him to set aside time for you on the schedule~EbookFREE.me~ Otherwise, when he gets busy, he will never think of you. exist.
We will have all kinds of questions at work. Regularly meeting with the boss to talk about our future development plans, etc., will bring many unexpected gains.
If you even have the opportunity, talk to a boss who spans the second and third levels, because the other party has a higher perspective and richer experience. Chatting with them will gain far more than simply chewing on some management books.
Some people will find it inappropriate, and even some companies prohibit cross-level communication between employees. I think this matter has to be treated differently. If you have an attitude of learning and growth, there is no ghost in your heart, and there is no taboo.
Looking at everyone's career, you need a mentor. If you can often have some conversations with high-level bosses, isn’t that just finding a mentor for yourself?
Furthermore, if you ask different levels of bosses for the same question, you will have answers from different angles, and each angle can give us something to gain.
Support publicly, question privately
The boss treats employees like this, and employees must treat the boss even more. In one-on-one conversations, they can put forward their own opinions, and can bluntly point out what the boss shouldn't do.
In public, when the boss needs support and encouragement, as long as you can agree with what the boss says, you should clearly express it and be a loyal supporter.
Having said that, in fact, I think the most difficult thing to adjust is the psychological awe of authority, but as long as we realize this and make some conscious adjustments, it will improve.
If you restrict your career development because of this, it would be too unworthy. However, this problem is not solved by changing jobs, because the root of the problem lies with you.
I would like to give this document to those living people who are still "suffering" in the workplace!